What is it with boys schools in B'ham?
What is happening with boys in general? My DS is in a secondary boy school ... and arghghghgh... I am often appalled by what I hear about his day at school: bad language, pranks, disruptive pupils in lessons. I don’t have memories of such things at my DD’s school 10 years ago. Is it because the level of good behaviour has plummeted in ten years (due to a lack of strict authority from parents) or is it a difference boys/girls?
My hair is becoming grey at an alarming rate!
There is this article about difference of discipline between the US and France (skip the first paragraphs about AHDH and go straight to 8th pragraph):http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/suf ... -have-adhd
I am persuaded the discipline in France is no more what it used to be but this article shows clearly that strict limits help children to build their personalities. Here is a quote of this article: hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own desires."
Oh dear, I will bother you again with North and South
by Elisabeth Gaskell
but there is this very nice passage (Mr Thornton speaking about his past)
:I am not speaking without book. Sixteen years ago, my father died under very miserable circumstances. I was taken from school, and had to become a man (as well as I could) in a few days. I had such a mother as few are blessed with; a woman of strong power, and firm resolve. We went into a small country town, where living was cheaper than in Milton, and where I got employment in a draper's shop . Week by week our income came to fifteen shillings, out of which three people had to be kept. My mother managed so that I put by three out of these fifteen shillings regularly. This made the beginning; this taught me self-denial.
Frankly, I do find 'teaching' self denial to my 11 year old DS quite challenging in our modern western society... though I do persist as I am very stubborn and I do hope that one day
all my advice will fall on 'open' ears