I know it is tempting to get into a debate about whether kids should be tutored for the 11+ but can we try to leave this thread as a useful reference for parents who wonder what they need to think about to get into grammar? It has been said elsewhere that some able kids miss out on grammar cos their parents don't know what is involved. My intention is that this thread might help them.
Not sure whether it was my post or sky111's which you deemed not to be in the spirit of offering a bit of insight into what might be involved if one was thinking about applying for a selective school place? You did say you "thought it would be useful to have a thread on different approaches to getting through the 11+".
The first step for us was to assess how good a fit our DC were likely to be for a place in a school selecting by academic ability and then we kept faith in their ability. If we had thought that they would require anything in the way of heavy-duty coaching to get them there, then we probably wouldn't have gone any further, nor did it occur to us that they should have paid tutoring / coaching regardless. All three were made aware that they had to succeed on their own merit.
That was our approach