Wolves mum wrote:
DS sat the 11 plus this year. It was hard work, nagging and draining. We argued, bribed and cried but got there. We did not have a tutor and I'm proud of our achievement. However DS2 is in year 4 and a different child. He has potential (as the teachers keep telling me) but is immature and lazy. I know it's going to be hard to prep him for the 11plus, even the basics like getting him to read; he'd rather play with his Lego.
I know in the long term I need to try my best to get him through the 11 plus and if we don't I need to know we tried our hardest. However after having just finished the emotional roller coaster with DS1 I just can't muster the enthusiasm or effort to get started with DS2.
Any motivational tips out there
Start off by getting him in the habit of reading, the lego ninja books may appeal to him, they did my son at about 7.5 - 8.5 yrs, or dk readers level 4 non fiction, have some good material, which is also great for discussion, but not big long lumps of text in thick paperbacks, and nothing like set school texts either. As he gets into the habit, you can slowly up the ante, but go gently if he has not been reading much of late for pure pleasure. Also get into the habit of checking he understands words, as my ds3 is now such a super independent reader, he whizzes past words he does not know, rather than finding out what they mean, and pronounces them beautifully too when reading aloud, really tries to fool us, rather than be interrupted, So feel free to learn from my mistakes
When you start to introduce structured worksheets later ( in year 5) he may still like lego, in which case sticker charts, and lego minifigs can work wonders, in other words bribe him with his weakness.