Starting to feel like the mean horrible mother!
Need reassurance that this is all worth it and normal
DD is in year 4, one more term to go
She has a tutor for 11+ as I didn't want to DIY as she tends to get a bit stroppy with me, although I did help her with KS1. Started early as she is good at maths and the school were not stretching her at all - she had reached her targets for the summer term 2012 at the beginning of the spring term 2012 and all school were going to do was consolidate knowledge! She is as far as I know working to a 4b in maths and reading and a 3a in writing.
Problem is at the moment the tutor seems to be giving her lots of work, which would probably take her less time if she did not dawdle and fidget. She is fine with the maths and the verbal reasoning but for the comprehensions he gives her she winges and winges and it is really hard to get her to focus and even try- as you can guess not her favourite. She does eventually do it but it seems to take hours for her to get one done and I feel like I am pointing things out to her in the text because she can't be bothered! I feel like the mean mum for making her do it and it feels like we are doing so much at the moment - we have done a bit in the mornings most days of the easter break (done lots of day trips and exciting bits as well - I'm not that bad) just to get through the stuff the tutor is setting.
Just wanted to know how much others are doing in year 4 if with a tutor. I know she is probably not the brightest button in the jar so she probably has to work a bit harder on the english - although she does love to read. I just feel bad if I am making her life **** - she just says at the moment she is doing it to please me and wants to make me proud, poor love. I keep trying to get her to think of the schools and do it for herself as well - am I expecting too much of a 9 year old. We have only seen CCHS, WHSG and SHSG from the outside yet, hoping visits in the term to come will encourage her a bit more. She did love the look of them all when she saw them.