The grammar schools are (not to put too fine a point on it) exam factories.
Not all, I am sorry. Some definitely are and some are not. Go and look with your eyes open would be my advice to parents and don't be dazzled by flashy facilities and newspaper headlines.
I'm not saying the pastoral care isn't there but the ultimate goal is exam results and that becomes clear
Sorry, no. This may apply to Pates ( I wouldn't dare comment
) but I can honestly say that at my sons' grammar pastoral care is at least as high a priority as exam results and there is a heavy focus on the individual child. Look at the head, look at the staff, look at the kids. If you look with your eyes open you will see.