dd is at SHS in year 7, and the school seems to be amazingly pastoral and supportive, really encouraging each girl at their best, rather than just aiming for academics. Obviously it is early days, but I have been struck by that.
But I really wanted to share about ds. He is in year 9 at Marling. When he took his 11+ he scored 222 (different system, score not a rank) The pass mark was 216 (I think) so we were happy he had passed and the admissions officer encouraged us to apply and we didn't think twice. When it came to it, we discovered that kids with 221 and 220 hadn't got a place and were going through the appeals process. In other words, he was the lowest scoring child who got in.
For a while I think he had a real weight in his shoulders about not being as good as the others (in retrospect I shouldn't have told him the actual score) He thought he was there by the skin of his teeth.
Then at half term they put them in 2 maths groups and he was in the top one, much to his surprse. Then he started to notice that some boys were struggling and needing lots of help and support. By the end of year 8 he said that he could tell which kids had been heavily tutored as they found GS hard work, wereas he sat somewhere in the middle, not the top of the class by any means, but not the bottom and coping very well with the work etc, and happy.
The test is not really a good indicator of the whole child. I would say look realistically at how you prepared, did she have a lot of intensive tutoring? Or did you generally prepare her for the test in a more low key way? If the first, she may struggle to keep up. If the second then I would guess she is as capable as the rest.