And am I alone in wondering whether we should have embarked on this whole stressful process?
No, you are definitely not alone, the feelings you are experiencing are exactly what every parent undertaking the selective school process goes through...just try not to let your DD pick up on your stress....difficult I know, but it will really help her if she thinks you are relaxed about it all. Panicking will not help!
Perhaps it all seems a bigger deal to me than it does to my daughter!
You have hit the nail on the head....it is perfectly normal to feel this way, but as parents we only want the best for our children so this is only natural.
The whole process is a roller-coaster of a ride...but it will be worth it in the end...pop into Rehab if it all gets too much for you, they are a friendly bunch in there honestly!
PS I am Burneth and I am a lady....!