Thanks pheasantchick!..good to know I'm not alone!
But not the answer I was hoping for as regards to subsequent DC's
It really is horrible isn't it!? And I really hate the whole secrecy thing that goes on at school too, I'm fine about the school not coaching the kids for it but surely it wouldn't hurt them to help parents to go through the process and advise them about how to apply etc.
And the parents have not given anything away either, it's only since they have taken the tests that I now know that half my DS's class took the test and that most of them have had private tutors, I understand the kids are all in theory in competition with each other but when we are talking about god knows how many thousands taking it does it really matter? And I'm not talking about giving away your prized tutors names either, just an acknowledgment that their DC are taking the test would have been something!! Just to have moral support!!...sorry rant over!