Thanks to both of you for your advice....
I've just got back from the open morning at Dartford and I must admit it is very impressive. Good to see it operating during the school day, a very different atmosphere from an evening visit. The children all looked happy
, which is obviously important.
My DS is now even more unsure which one he likes best. All his friends seem to be opting for Wilmington, so I'm sure this will sway him, although not sure this is a good enough reason!
As you said, the fact that they're both good schools should really be enough to stop panicing about our order of preference...!
His teacher has said he would do well at both (which hasn't helped!) and I guess taking the distance into more consideration as you mentioned, should be a deciding factor - Wilmington is closer.