Haha, I did wonder if I would get biased views so we don't take up a space, but this forum has been so helpful with advice and people genuinely wanting to help, so i thought it would be worth a go!
The pastoral care/SENCO at QEHS is what I am leaning towards. I have only had one phonecall with the SENCO at Caistor, and she seems hard to get an appointment with - only part time which is understandable being a small school, but does worry me a little. QEHS SENCO is lovely and has already met with me once before the exams, was VERY supportive, and we are awaiting another meeting.
I would also imaging QEHS has more experience with SEN as it is a larger school and has more numbers on roll...
The subjects is another thing, he is academic - but he is also very artistic and musical (very good at drums and acting!!) - so on that alone I suppose QEHS would be a better choice (specialism is music). I believe Caistor has Sport as a specialism, and he is not sporty at all. BUT, you don't HAVE to be sporty to learn there.
I believe a few of his friends from Primary will be going to Caistor, none sat the QEHS exam. So thats another thing - but he honestly doesn't mind going to a new school and making new friends. In a way I think he is seeing it as a 'new start' after a difficult few years. When we decided to go for the exams he realised that there was no guarantee he would be with people he knew, if he passed.
Travel will be difficult to sort out whichever school we choose. I couldn't sleep last night so have been up emailing companies to see who does transport... I always said if he earned a place we need to do whatever we can to get him there!
Writing this has made me realise that I am curving more towards QEHS....but more opinions are deffinately appreciated.
(He came out of both QE exams talking to another child and grinning - so he obviously felt comfortable there too)