Hello, I've been reading this forum for a couple of months, since my DS's cousins began their 11+ exams and it got me thinking about my own children and their future!
I currently have DS1 in Yr1. I feel a bit embarrassed that I'm already posting this early!
But I've gradually began to realize this year that a lot of children do Kumon/ have tutors already/ or are given lots of 'home' work by their parents with a view to the 11+ in 5 or so years' time
. Am I doing the wrong thing by not providing this stuff for my son? He is a lovely lovely boy, apparently a good middle at maths, doing well in his reading and has 'higher thinking skills' according to his teacher last week, with a particular aptitude for science. I'm very proud that he's achieved all that without any help from me at all! But will he be left behind as the other kids advance because of the extra help/ tutoring they receive?
I suspect my neurosis (?) about this isn't helped by the fact that my local selective schools, private or state, are fiercely difficult to get into, as I'm aware everyone on the Surrey forum knows better than I!!
Any advice about the best way to support my son as he advances through his primary years would be greatly appreciated. Plus, could anyone tell me whether one needs to be a year or two ahead of your peer group to even stand a chance with the 11+ exams? I'm told at private schools the kids are a year or two ahead of the state schools and, of course, we'd be competing with them for places at private/ state selective secondary schools.
Sorry for long long post! Deep exhalation coming!