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desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2012 3:51 pm
by stargazer
Dear all

It is 6 weeks to the exams, and we have fired our tutor because of the volume of work but with very little progress. Now I feel helpless and without support. I do wonder if it was a rash decision. We will be taking the Sutton girls’ school exams.
Are there any posts or advice out there for a recommended scheme of work? This may sound like a Dear Dierdre post, and it is.

Stargazer

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2012 9:09 pm
by FluffyD
Have you tried posting under your area? You may find more of a response.
Good Luck,
x

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2012 9:18 pm
by hermanmunster
good idea fluffy - I'll move the thread.

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2012 6:49 pm
by menagerie
Can you tell us more? What was the tutor expecting your DD to do each week? What was the tutor doing in tutorial with her? was it 1-2-1 or class? Did the tutor have a great reputation for getting people in?

I'm asking because there are several issues here. The bleakest scenario is that despite the tutor's best efforts, your DD can't make the grade for a super selective, which Sutton is.

There are plenty more: the tutor wasn't a good fit for your DD and didn't explain in a way that worked for her; the tutor simply wasn't much cop etc.

The main issue now is to build your DD's confidence and techniques in the next six weeks. If it were me, I'd go for 2 hours a day. explain this is a one off and that the rest of the holidays will be spent having fun. Let her choose the hours, and whether she wants to split them or not. Stick to them religiously.

Go over exactly what Sutton requires in exams, in your spare time (I don't know, but check which of VR, NVR, English comprehension/essay, Maths are required. Get hold of the most appropriate books for the school (this forum will have a list somewhere) as well as the how to do it books. Bond has How To Do books, and IPS is self explanatory, explaining as you go along. Spend the first three weeks just looking at relevant material. I'd suggest one hour per day on doing papers, plus one hour per day going over nay mistakes she made, and making sure she understands the processes. Then a week of timed tests, then a week of hardcore revision on weakest subjects, then taper to maybe three papers a week for the final week, or the ten minute a day tests, one in each subject, at 11+ level. If she has to write an essay or story, let us know, and I'll post some pointers, as I teach essay skills.

Give her loads of rewards and small goals to reach. If she concentrates and works hard, reward with a film night or having a friend sleep over, or making pancakes etc. If she gets a certain level of achievement, take her out for an ice cream or swimming or buy her some shiny things from Cl;aire's accessories. Remind her that her work is for her, not you. She is doing it to give herself not only the best chance in life, but the best attitude to life, and even if she fails the exam, that attitude which she has nurtured can't be taken away and will result in higher exam results and better prospects come what may. All the hard work she puts in, whether she passes the exam or not, will always be valuable to her in her life, long term.

As much as she can, help her to enjoy it. Have a giggle about it. Play on Freerice or play scrabble together, or do books of sudoku and wordsearches when you travel on trains. Stuff that is light hearted but keeps her mind alert.

tell her it's only for six weeks and it's worth pulling out the stops.

That said, if she didn't develop with the tutor because she just isn't ready at this level right now, for whatever reason. let her free to enjoy the summer and rave about the local comp. What's most important is that she starts secondary feeling good about her school, her prospects there and herself.

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2012 8:45 pm
by omismum
Very well said Menagrie..
I think you can not totally rely on any tutor.You have to take things in your hand.keep working on her weak points and you will be their.
Good luck

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:43 pm
by stargazer
Dear Menagerie

Thank you for your reply. It was very motivating. I shall try your suggestions. Can I take up your offer of help with the essay pointers? Any guidance will be appreciated.

About the tutor - The tutor taught in a group. Some parents really commended this tutor. However, there were some children who did drop out because the lessons were not very effective ie lots of distractions and lots of homework but not enough time to go over the corrections or teaching. This is why we dropped out. Although, the tutor did provide direction, told us which papers to get and set the pace. This is sort of what I miss.

Thanks.

Re: desperate for direction - no paddle- no tutor

Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2012 3:49 pm
by Munchkins
Dear Menagerie,

I would be extremely grateful if you could share some pointers with essay skills. I can't afford a tutor so I have been trying to tutor my daughter myself but I have no idea how to go about helping her with essay skills. Please help! Many thanks.