It's just so confusing!! I seem to have spent a small fortune on books and papers etc... It's good to know that your children passed without tutors and with little preparation as everyone seems really hung up on spending as much time as possible working. Obviously I want my son to pass but I want him to be able to do it on his own merit as then we will know that once he is in Grammar (If!) he is not going to struggle there. He is a bright boy and so far is doing great- although we are finding the Verbal reasoning a bit tough going.
I think that it is very important to be aware of what is going on in your area regarding tutoring.
If all the kids are tutored, any unprepared bright kid will be at a disadvantage, and a tutored kid won't be a 'pushed' kid, just the norm.
Yoyo is from Kent, you are in Surrey, the situation may be very different.