You can get moments where you need broad shoulders. Sunday I felt a bit down, in the morning I was asked if my son was attending a £680 rugby tour over half term of his first term of year 7 as theirs was, in the afternoon I was asked which trips my eldest had selected this year, theirs was doing the "usual" skiing and world challenge but had also put his name forward for the 2k west coast of America trip.
I honesty don't think we would sign up for everything even if money were no object, but on one salary it is a huge obstacle. I was cheered up no end by my boys, who all whole heartedly and separately said if they were to go anywhere amazing abroad as children they would want to share it with us and one another, which I thought was lovely.
World challenge is something I personally and vehemently disagree with, but if they asked I would support them in their choice, they are aware of our opinions though. I do get cross with one of my son's gs having lack of alternatives to the very expensive trips, but the parents do seem very affluent and willing?
Uniform, equipment etc is no different from gs to upper school really, some bits are ludicrous some sensibly priced, most stuff can be bought second hand, particularly worth asking about second hand sports kits and training tops etc.
There is a lot of talk on this forum about the charitable monthly donations, don't worry though, you can ignore the requests or pay less than recommended. We support certain other charities and do not compromise those for the school donations.
Bus and train fares must be considered of course or petrol costs.
So all in all, please do not let expense put you off, there may be more expensive things on offer, but just pad out those shoulders and remember at the end of the day it is a school like any other.
Sorry.....just realised this was Surrey...
boys are in Bucks grammars, I thought it was a general ask.