Whose choice?
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Ed wanted to go to the local comprehensive school. We took him to see it along with the out of catchment GS and two independent schools. We knew which one we wanted him to attend and had good reasons for our choices. His choice was the only one which was not acceptable to us. Eventually, after (husband and I) speaking highly of our top choice, and speaking much less favourably about his choice, he came round to our way of thinking.
Your child needs to be happy at school, but as parents we generally know best. He IS just a child and does not have the life experience to know all the implications of huge decisions such as this one. That said, as mentioned by another on this thread, if you are happy about either school it perhaps does not matter if your son has the final choice.
Your child needs to be happy at school, but as parents we generally know best. He IS just a child and does not have the life experience to know all the implications of huge decisions such as this one. That said, as mentioned by another on this thread, if you are happy about either school it perhaps does not matter if your son has the final choice.
Hi Tipsy
If either school would be acceptable to you I would allow DS to choose. We adopted this approach with our DS (once we had weaned him off the idea of the local comp where lots of his friends were going! )
I think that it is important (if possible) for DC to have a stake in their own futures. My experience is that if in this way they take on some responsibility for their studies then the keener they are to engage and the more determined they are to work through any teething problems. (Rather than say 'I hate this school, I told you I wouldn't like it etc etc')
Once you have all settled on whichever school, you will all be much happier! It will be a big weight off all your shoulders!
If either school would be acceptable to you I would allow DS to choose. We adopted this approach with our DS (once we had weaned him off the idea of the local comp where lots of his friends were going! )
I think that it is important (if possible) for DC to have a stake in their own futures. My experience is that if in this way they take on some responsibility for their studies then the keener they are to engage and the more determined they are to work through any teething problems. (Rather than say 'I hate this school, I told you I wouldn't like it etc etc')
Once you have all settled on whichever school, you will all be much happier! It will be a big weight off all your shoulders!
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Hi Tipsy,
I'm with Freya
If you really , truly would be as happy with either school, why not let him choose? Unless of course there are aspects of the ethos that you do not feel would sit well with his personality.But you don't seem to be saying that so let him decide and it is one less thing for him to blame you for in teenage years.
I'm with Freya
If you really , truly would be as happy with either school, why not let him choose? Unless of course there are aspects of the ethos that you do not feel would sit well with his personality.But you don't seem to be saying that so let him decide and it is one less thing for him to blame you for in teenage years.