Sorry absolutely no offense meant.
I probably meant to say absolutely the opposite of what was understood. A child only gets into a school like St Pauls because they have done very well.
So no need at all to worry about others being richer or posher. A child is there because they have earned a place. People at a St Pauls Open Day who seem to know each other will probably be from a smallish number of West London prep schools who act as feeders. Only a proportion will get in and once in the girls will make new friends, as with any other secondary.
If someone is worried about whether their child might fit in, there may be one or two schools where the intake is considered to be more socially narrow. But this would probably show on an open day.
However in view of the misunderstanding I am happy to for my posts to be deleted.
Many thanks for the comments; I didnâ€™t take offence, but I am not rich, though perhaps a bit thick!
I did feel left out and felt the parents to a little extent excluded me; as you mentioned probably because they knew each other. The children seemed to know each other quite well, From listening to conversations, I did feel we were transferring from the minor leagues. also felt a little class conscious perhaps that was just me being me.
I would hate for my daughter to be excluded. She quite a reserved child, a little shy, but will speak her mind if challlenged She extremely popular in her current school amongst both the boys and girls, to certain extent because she very good at sports and one of the brightest in the year. She is a bit of a tomboy, an example of this, I am currently sitting outside a Scaletrix party in Northwood; I have been banished to the car as I am giving her bad luck, sheâ€™s the only girl in the group
I assume most children from the preps would have been taught to a higher standard and will have a head start in at least Latin, French, etc, this may make her feel more insecure if she has difficulty in making friends and finding friends with similar interests.
Lack of uniform is a concern, my dd isnâ€™t a follower of fashion, I am concerned that children will be coming into school with designer clothes, while she is happier with a pair of jeans and a T-shirt and may get left out because of this.
We do have a very good free back up, but need to let them know next week if she is coming or not.
Thanks again for the advice it was very much appreciated.