What to do? Three years ago a friend of mine received a bursary (90% off the fees) for her daughter to attend a 'leading' independent school. At the time she was a full-time working single mother and claimed her daughter's father (who she sees regularly) does not contribute to her upkeep even though he has job, albeit a low paid one - think he contibutes in other ways though as the child has the very latest mobile phone, ipod, bike etc.
The mother has a boyfriend who she has been seeing throughout the three years and they have enjoyed many expensive holidays together. The daughter has recently confided in my daughter that her mum is living with the boyfriend, who incidentally earns good money, but has been told by them not to tell anyone, especially at school or she will lose the bursary and will have to leave.
I feel torn ... on one hand I am seething because it's fraudulent and not fair on genuine cases; also not impressed that the daughter has been dragged into the deceit. However, she's a friend of mine, although not a very close friend, and I'm not sure I would be able to stand the guilt if telling the school leads to huge problems for them.
Just wondered how others would feel about this?
Or, perhaps living with someone who is not the child's father is allowed under bursary rules; I do not know ... does not seem fair but perhaps they are not actually doing anything legally wrong?