I'm finding this really difficult as well so hopefully I can butt in too
What is it that you actually get at an independent that you don't get at the best grammars?
For example, my DS may get a place at grammar on 01 March and has had one offer for an independent already and fingers crossed for one other (had interview already.) Now the grammar's results are comparable to one of the independent's and significantly better than the other. I appreciate, however, that there is sooooooo much more to education than the bit of paper you get at the end. So what is it that the grammars are missing? Obviously facilities - no swimming pool (though my DD's grammar has one
) no purpose built theatre etc, but you must be paying for more than that?
The only thing I can compare with is my own experience and I went to a grammar and my DDs go to a grammar. They have really good facilities, CCF, fabulous music opportunities, they've been on several trips abroad, oldest does debating, young enterprise etc and I just can't see what else they would get at an independent that they're not getting there. Maybe it's the "love of learning" thing that crops up. Oldest has a string of A* at gcse but can't say that she loves learning to be honest
I just can't put my finger on it and really need to and soon