Kingfisher, you said your friends DD went to Nlcs from a waiting list. How is she coping at the school? Did your friend ever ask Nlcs why she was put on the WL rather than scoring a firm offer?
Hello Blossomingflower. She is loving the school and fits in extremely well. Don't forget, there is not very much difference academically (if any) between those who get in first time and those on the waiting list. The interview is what makes a huge difference as this is where they decide who would fit in. A huge level of independence is expected at this school where most girls are very confident and have opinions on everything. This sort of environment is not for everyone. They are also trying to sort out those who have been tutored to the test and are unable to think on their feet. There are some who don't like me saying this but this is what happens.
In interview there are some students who are less shy than others, are able to think laterally, can engage in an intelligent and mature way with adults, can demonstrate their thinking process when faced with questions they cannot necessarily answer and so on. They are looking for the brightest. This is why some girls are made firm offers.
The school is of the opinion that your daughter has demonstrated a strong ability to do these and they feel she would thrive in the school. However, although they want her, there were others who have demonstrated the above to a greater degree and so have been 'ranked' higher, according to the interview (but not exam, as we cannot know how she performed in the test). These girls will be placed on the waiting list.
I have been slated on this site in the past for stressing how important the interview is. One parent even went so far as to tell me that this was just a formality. I have said before that I know one family who put their DD through the NLCS exam four times, for entry into different years, of course. She is a very clever girl but ever so introverted; she got through the paper each time but failed to get through the interview on each occasion. The family has since given up. The interview is crucial - fewer than 1 in 3 will get in.
Your DD has done very well to be on the WL. There is a good chance that she will be offered a place, but you must be patient. You do not know how many other girls are higher up on the waiting list than your DD and that is the frustrating thing. But NLCS manages things well and they will start to offer from the WL as soon as other people start to decline their places for whatever reason.
And when it comes down to it, the girls don't know who was made a firm offer and who was on the waiting list. They just get on with it and make friends with each other.
If you were offered HBS, would you take that place over this one? Decisions, decisions!