For all who are first time buyers of inde schools do you feel that you always have to be on your best behaviour amongst teachers or are you pretty relaxed? Its especially difficult when your on a scholarship because you feel as if they are doing you a favour! Any advice/comments or similar thoughts?
I have found exactly the opposite. I did attend an independent school, but still felt when approaching public schools for my own children (even in order to pay full fees) that I wasn't quite up to the mark socially. As I have said on another thread I didn't even dare to approach Eton and Winchester for DS1, although with the benefit of hindsight I am as certain as it is possible to be that they would have fallen over themselves to have him. (I am sorry, that sounds very arrogant but it is true). However, I have taught in an independent school myself and have observed that the people who are most assertive about their DC's ability and of their right to massive bursaries etc are the ones who clearly have never set foot in an independent school before. They don't seem at all embarrassed by their own ignorance or grateful for what they are getting, in many cases free or very cheap. I know this sounds awful and of course it is a generalisation and there are plenty of exceptions in both camps, but this is my perception.
I will take cover now.
Edited to say I am not referring to anyone at all on this site, even the WUMs - the kind of people I am talking about are most unlikely to appear on here. Sorry if anyone has already been offended.