I agree with absolutely everything you have said, anotherdad. In fact, I have such an issue with the whole attitude towards gaining a GS place/tutoring frenzy (as I call it) that we decided not to go down that route and did some practice at home with my DD in the preceding weeks. Fortunately she got through, and yes I am happy because I believe everything about her suits the GS system, but I would have been equally happy (and so would DD) if she attended our local Upper; her older brother attends the school and is doing well. We knew it was unlikely he would achieve the required 11+ score despite doing pretty well in school, and he was almost terrified at the prospect of attending a GS....in fact whatever the 11+ result we were always going to send him to the Upper. Admittedly it means that in some areas we occasionally need to stretch him a little if we feel he can do more.....but the way I see it isn't that my job as a supportive parent anyway??
Whilst I realise some schools give cause for concern we are
very lucky in Bucks to have many good upper schools... and I feel people do not always appreciate this
. My sister lives in London with DD the same age and I also have friends in other areas where they have NEITHER a GS system or good schools...in fact pretty poor. Now that's something to worry about.....