What i don't understand is that someone who fails the 11+ but not miserably will be given a school which has all the worst qualities that a parent dreads, where is the matching of the childs ability where they can develop and learn in a suitable environment!
Wish I had an answer for you. The problem is parents don't really have a choice - what they have the right to express a preference.
In Kent now all children receive only one offer of a school do you think that the appeal system is not going to work because you can appeal but if no one has school offers to turn down (as in previous years with multiple school offers) then there are no places available to offer parents who go through the appeal process even if they are sucessful.
If there are no places available, then the appeal panel, which is completely independent of the LEA and the school, takes a decision on the "balance of prejudice". See section C of the Q&As.