References from tutors
Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2012 7:59 pm
Can't find anything specific on here but wary this may well be a repeat topic.
We've been consistently told by all and sundry not to mention the dreaded "T" word and to include a reference from one would be educational suicide. The distinct impression I've formed is that it seems to carry the same value as getting a letter from a prostitute saying you’re good in bed.
However education is a two way thing - you can take an intelligent and capable child and put her in a good grammar school yet without strong home support they will suffer. Using a tutor surely shows that the parent part of the tripartite are involved, committed and likely to support the child and school in the long term.
I accept limited weighting could arguably be put on her words but that argument could be levied at the child's teachers who could be equally biased. I saw elsewhere on the forum that a lady on the south coast was asked if her child was tutored as if, in some way to infer, that a positive response would draw a negative mark. At any rate I think we shouldn't be so quick to cast aspersions on their integrity.
By virtue of what they are doing every day, many of these tutors are way more experienced and qualified than the teachers we so readily go to for words.
Anyway I'm not going to as I'm not going to fight for the principle when my child's future is at stake. Tutors cost money and I recognise that but everyone can afford even just one session and I think this effort should be recognised. I'm just not clear I understand the why's of it.
We've been consistently told by all and sundry not to mention the dreaded "T" word and to include a reference from one would be educational suicide. The distinct impression I've formed is that it seems to carry the same value as getting a letter from a prostitute saying you’re good in bed.
However education is a two way thing - you can take an intelligent and capable child and put her in a good grammar school yet without strong home support they will suffer. Using a tutor surely shows that the parent part of the tripartite are involved, committed and likely to support the child and school in the long term.
I accept limited weighting could arguably be put on her words but that argument could be levied at the child's teachers who could be equally biased. I saw elsewhere on the forum that a lady on the south coast was asked if her child was tutored as if, in some way to infer, that a positive response would draw a negative mark. At any rate I think we shouldn't be so quick to cast aspersions on their integrity.
By virtue of what they are doing every day, many of these tutors are way more experienced and qualified than the teachers we so readily go to for words.
Anyway I'm not going to as I'm not going to fight for the principle when my child's future is at stake. Tutors cost money and I recognise that but everyone can afford even just one session and I think this effort should be recognised. I'm just not clear I understand the why's of it.