Firstly - hello! I have read so much of this site, lurking when my ds took the 11+ two years ago and has dyslexia so lots of helpful information, and now as my dd has just taken her 11+. So I thank you so much for being here.
My dd scored 101 but had it not been for her start to the year, was expected to pass. VR - 45.34, Maths - 30.92 and NVR - 25.07.
The Headmaster has put her down as a 2:2. He told me all the children he gave a 1 to passed (7 passed in total and it's a large primary with about 70 taking test at a guess) - all achieving very high scores. She has expected high 5s at end of year 6, has a reading age of almost 4 years ahead. KS1 results were level 3s. Her CATs overall mean was 119 in May this year (but again, the extenuating circumstances below may well have affected this too).
The headmaster has strongly recommended going to a selection review and will strongly support us. We have decided against an appeal because the local grammars are oversubscribed and we are only in the catchment area for one as well. The academic evidence seems OK to me - is there anything there that would cause you concern?
The extenuating circumstances are:
1. A traumatic Christmas last year. An aunt - who was like a Mum to me/grandma to dd fell outside our house christmas morning and sustained a bad head injury. I did all I could to keep my Aunt with us, but she lost consciousness and had fits - all of which my dd witnessed. The ambulance finally arrived and she was taken to ITU and put on life support. She died 2nd January. What I'm trying to convey here is that though this was a few months ago, this seriously affected my daughter, this aunt was a huge part of our lives. My dd has carried a lot of guilt over these events.
2. A few weeks later her Nan on her Dad's side of the family died - which she had not been prepared for at all. She was then not allowed to the funeral and feels she hasn't said goodbye.
3. Her Dad (who she doesn't live with) has struggled and is now a lot less involved in my dds life, so she feels she has also lost her Dad in addition to her two grandmothers.
4. My ds has many issues including an anxiety disorder which is at it's worst in September at the start of a new school year. He was throwing tantrums etc and making life in dds home extremely difficult for dd at the time of the 11+
5. My dd has been receiving counselling from the child bereavement charity and is starting to make progress.
6. Her 'get up and go' has been sucked out of her, and I feel she will not have been working as fast and confidently for a few months. She is quieter, and self-reflecting.
The question is do I put this all down? And the information on this site talks of getting evidence. I can provide evidence of her academic achievements, but how do I provide evidence of the above? Or will they just believe me?! The head is going to submit a letter I wrote shortly before the 11+ where I express concern with whether she is capable of meeting her potential in the test due to the bereavements. What also didn't help was the talk of Christmas straight into the new school year which has triggered bad dreams and dd worries that she is going to lose someone else close to her this Christmas (me being top of her worry list
). She was off school with stomach pains the day before the 11+ - probably due to anxiety from her bad dreams. It's heartbreaking to see her broken like this, but I know she would flourish in a grammar school, she has her heart set on a grammar school and the head teacher backs me on this.
Any advice greatly received!