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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 5:15 pm 
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At induction day last week, my DD met her new class and it seems that most children live quite an inconvenient distance away from us - 20+ miles. It's no real surprise given we're a fair trek from the school, just unfortunate that many are coming from the opposite direction.

I'm just wondering how it'll be not having local school friends during the teenage years. I'd be interested to hear from those who've already experienced this. Presumably her Dad and I can look forward to much taxiing over the next seven years!

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 5:48 pm 
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We are resigned to the same taxi service for DD. I just think it's not her fault where she's going to school so feel obliged to do lots of ferrying, I guess there'll be more sleepovers to make visits worthwhile or maybe they'll meet in a town while I can do some shopping or have a meal.


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 26, 2009 6:12 pm 
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Igglepiggle wrote:
At induction day last week, my DD met her new class and it seems that most children live quite an inconvenient distance away from us - 20+ miles. It's no real surprise given we're a fair trek from the school, just unfortunate that many are coming from the opposite direction.

I'm just wondering how it'll be not having local school friends during the teenage years. I'd be interested to hear from those who've already experienced this. Presumably her Dad and I can look forward to much taxiing over the next seven years!

Thanks

IP


Hello,
We have been in this situation for two years.Although we live near the school, DD seemed to manage to make friends primarily with girls who live far away.(well her closest friends)
In year 7 friendships shuffle a lot anyhow.The last two years I have just had to be more flexible and accommodating than I expected to be.We have girls staying over at weekends at least twice a month in term time.in school hols they have extended stays.
it is not ideal but they need their friends when they are teenagers.(especially girls)


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 8:21 pm 
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I have been worrying about the same thing myself as my DS's primary friends are all going to the local comp which is round the corner but DS is going to an indie which is 9 miles away. I know this is not a huge distance but can't help wondering how he will feel when no-one calls for him in future!


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 8:26 pm 
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Ed has had this problem. His friends (new ones from school) all live a good few miles away. It just means being prepared to drive them about quite a lot, unfortunately.

My sister in law ended up moving for this reason - although there was a bit more to it than that. It is entirely possible that your child may have 'school' friends and 'home' friends. That can work well.


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 9:33 pm 
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Agree with previous posters. It isn't their fault if their friends live further away. In primary school all DS's friends lived within 10 minutes from our house, now it's 10 miles!There are a couple of boys living nearby but DS "doesn't really like them"!!! :roll: However as I get on well with the mums the boys also get on well when we get them together, it's just not their first choice of friends.We all have to compromise and most weekends are spent ferrying DS to birthday parties or sleepovers.DH said he should get an orange 'For Hire ' sign for his car!! :shock:
They break up on Friday so there will be a lot of taxiing over the next few weeks!


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 2:33 pm 
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Thanks for your replies everyone. We are resigned to providing taxi services! It makes me realise how easy the last seven years have been having all friends within a mile or two!

It's funny how you spend months worrying about whether or not your child will pass the 11+ and once they've got a place, you find something else to stress over!


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 5:12 pm 
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Depending on exactly where you live - it might not be as bad as you think... As they get older they can get very good at reading bus timetables and getting themselves around if they are motivated enough!


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:32 pm 
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That's true, public transport is good here and I'm sure she'll be very motivated to get out and about as soon as we are willing to give her that freedom!

A friend said to me, that at 11, they seem so young to be travelling long distances to school, but that they very quickly become thirteen year olds and it won't seem half so scarey.


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