I am really against teenagers having mobile phones for this reason
But I'm sure you'll agree that there comes a point, or more of a gradient really, when I think one's job as a parent is to let go. We're not going to be vetting their texts etc when they're at university, so it's probably best to give them some leeway while they're still at home.
if they are being bullied via text and phone call as well then where can they find sanctuary?
They can switch the phone off. Of course the nasty messages will be there when they turn it on, but it provides temporary respite. If it's really bad they could change their phone number.
Bexley Mum 2 wrote:
We put all sorts of restrictions on our home computers but I wonder how many parents consider that their children might be accessing stuff via their phone that they wouldn't be able to at home?
Another point re bullying surveys is that they sometimes use a very wide definition of bullying, which bumps the numbers up, but, more importantly, doesn't distinguish between the nasty but normal that one has to learn to ignore and the repeated and really nasty stuff that requires intervention.