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 Post subject: Barmitzvah money
PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:07 pm 
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Hi, any Jewish members - I need your advice!
My DS has several close friends at school who are turning 13. They are having their Barmitzvahs with quite lavish parties. What I need to know is - what's the acceptable amount of money to give on this occasion? One of the mums suggested £40 is the average. :shock:


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:31 pm 
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Gulp!! have to be pretty close friend I think.... Maybe that is what adult friends / rellys give.

If it was my DC's friends I would treat it like a gift for a birthday party.. tenner is usually my limit!


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:43 pm 
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Nope! She meant from schoolfriends!! Mind you , they are a pretty affluent group so it's probably not that much to them! :shock:
I always stuck to a tenner when DS at primary school but the going rate is now £20 -£30 depending on how close a friend it is. Oh the joys of independent schools!!


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:47 pm 
I suppose it is a one off instead of a yearly birthday but it is still a lot!


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 3:50 pm 
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Tell me about it!! We have 3 in the next 3 months! :evil:


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:07 pm 
Not a one off then! DS better get that scholarship then! :wink: :lol:


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:12 pm 
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Yikes, that IS a lot!!!

Talking of giving money and birthdays.

I too have always stuck to the tenner in primary but am now wondering if it should be up to say £15 or £20 now they're in secondary.

Any thoughts anyone???

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:34 pm 
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I'd say £20 is reasonable for their good friends.


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zorro wrote:
I'd say £20 is reasonable for their good friends.



I am obviously very mean because we still spend a tenner in secondary. :shock:


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:48 pm 
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Me too, CM. The interesting thing is though at secondary school you can often go to all the efforts of putting on a party for all their friends (at exorbitant cost) and some of their friends don't even give them a present at all :shock:
I would not cough up £40 for any of their friends, that said if any of the children wanted to spend that amount on a friend they would save up some of the money themselves from pocket money.


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