Barmitzvah money
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zorro wrote:The going rate at DS's school is £20 for normal birthdays and £40 for barmitzvah birthday parties.
Should have sent him to a Catholic school !!
Come on all you Jewish parents! Where are you when I need you?
Then you'd only have First Communion and Confirmation parties
I still wouldn't be swayed by a going rate. It's not a business, I like the idea of a carefully thought out present that will mean something to the child as he gets older, rather than cash for something that is a religious occasion as opposed to a birthday.
Zorro
When my DD attended a bat mitzvah, I asked round about a gift too! I knew money was the usual thing, but someone suggested we gave £18 - apparently this is a special number as it is the numerical value of the word Chai, meaning life (had to google that to remind myself!).
I usually give £15 for close friends (£10 for others) so £18 was OK for me for a special occasion.
T x
When my DD attended a bat mitzvah, I asked round about a gift too! I knew money was the usual thing, but someone suggested we gave £18 - apparently this is a special number as it is the numerical value of the word Chai, meaning life (had to google that to remind myself!).
I usually give £15 for close friends (£10 for others) so £18 was OK for me for a special occasion.
T x
This is what I think...
I think you give what is comfortable for you. For some that might be £5, whilst others could afford £40 comfortably.
Of course I can understand that one would want to give 'the going rate' but I have learned that that is not always possible.
I'm not familiar with giving for this particular occasion, but I would imaginre that the thought is more important than the amount?? I may be wrong though.
I think you give what is comfortable for you. For some that might be £5, whilst others could afford £40 comfortably.
Of course I can understand that one would want to give 'the going rate' but I have learned that that is not always possible.
I'm not familiar with giving for this particular occasion, but I would imaginre that the thought is more important than the amount?? I may be wrong though.