Go to navigation
It is currently Fri Dec 09, 2016 7:27 pm

All times are UTC




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 32 posts ]  Go to page 1, 2, 3, 4  Next
Author Message
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:10 am 
Offline

Joined: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:09 pm
Posts: 218
Recently, my Y8 son asked if he could have a television in his own bed room because so many of his friends have one.......

My answer is that 'No, DS because you do not need one in your bedroom. I have no TV in my room. The bedroom is for relaxation and rest. If you want to watch TV, go to the lounge instead'

Do you think I am too strict ? Your view is welcome.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:17 am 
Offline

Joined: Mon Aug 13, 2007 10:47 am
Posts: 3310
Location: Warwickshire.
I don't think you're being too strict. However...

Both mine DO have them and they have never once abused the priviledge. In fact, my daughter rarely watches hers. Son uses his for gaming (probably another 'no no'!!)

My two use their bedroom for most of their 'play'. They are not just rest rooms. They both sleep well.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:20 am 
Offline

Joined: Mon Nov 16, 2009 7:28 pm
Posts: 950
Location: Bucks
NO!! If I did put one in his room I fear I would never see him!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:20 am 
Offline

Joined: Wed Nov 21, 2007 4:20 pm
Posts: 4660
I don't think you're too strict - you don't want it in there, that's your choice.

I think my dc's rooms are their private sanctuaries - somewhere to go to be on their own, do what they want to do, watch what they want to watch and somewhere to 'chill out'. I also think IF a tv is allowed in a dc's bedroom people have to be really strict about ensuring it is off in good time (and not turned back on again once dastardly parents have gone back downstairs :shock: ). Having said all that, we cannot get a tv signal in dd's bedroom so she doesn't have it :lol: :lol: :lol:

_________________
Image


Top
 Profile  
 
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:27 am 
Offline

Joined: Sat Feb 21, 2009 6:16 pm
Posts: 2113
essex-mum18 wrote:
Recently, my Y8 son asked if he could have a television in his own bed room because so many of his friends have one.......

My answer is that 'No, DS because you do not need one in your bedroom. I have no TV in my room. The bedroom is for relaxation and rest. If you want to watch TV, go to the lounge instead'

Do you think I am too strict ? Your view is welcome.


I am in the same place as you and my two oldest are yr 7 and yr 9.I am not sure it would necessarily affect relaxation maybe it would for my eldest who doesn't need much sleep.
.My reasons are different. I find that even the trailers for some programmes are explicit/ scary after 8 pm.I understand that it is possible to "lock" tvs after a certain time but I would still worry about the content of what they are watching.
I also think that teenagers can become quite moody at times and this can express itself in wanting to withdraw from other people.A t.v in the room gives another incentive to withdraw.
Of course they need their space and my 14 year old will go up and read or draw but she is tempted back down if there is something she wants to watch.We also have some opportunities to discuss some very unexpected issues by watching t.v together.I don't think some of those conversations would necessarily occur naturally.

I think this will be an interesting thread because everyone is different re this but that's just where I am with it.Interestingly they don't ask since about yr 6 because I made it quite clear it was a total no no and explained why.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:31 am 
Offline

Joined: Tue Mar 04, 2008 2:28 pm
Posts: 2361
Think it depends a bit if there is another room besides main family living room where they can watch? While you have reponsibilty to limit viewing in terms of amount & subject matter, teenagers do have different tastes & a small amount of 'trash' of certain kinds probably wont hurt.
We have advantage of children's chill out room that they share & is 'public' so TV is in there - none in bedrooms.
I would be worried about being it being watched instead of studying/sleeping if in bedroom - big temptation!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:33 am 
Offline

Joined: Mon Nov 24, 2008 1:25 pm
Posts: 2556
Personally it's a no. Not only am I too mean to fund the aerials but I want to see my boys about the place. We only have one tv as a family but survive. We use an old one for the wii - both complain it's too small, tough, it was our family tv til less than a year ago.
My other concern is knowing just how addictive screen time is :oops: :?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:34 am 
Offline

Joined: Mon Aug 13, 2007 10:47 am
Posts: 3310
Location: Warwickshire.
I suppose some of it comes down to trust.
Also, my children (currently) do not have another room, other than our one lounge.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:37 am 
Quote:
'No, DS because you do not need one in your bedroom. I have no TV in my room.


I am going to use this excuse when they ask me! :D My boys have a Wii in their room but the TV is not connected to the aerial.


Top
  
 
 Post subject:
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 11:38 am 
Offline

Joined: Thu Dec 18, 2008 10:12 am
Posts: 3758
Location: Berkshire
I have always said no to TVs in bedrooms, we don't have one in ours. Oldest however had a summer job when he was sixteen and saved uo to buy himself one, so I couldn't really say no to that.
I realise though we are lucky in that we have 2 rooms with tvs in, so usually watching 2 things at the same time isn't a problem, it may have been different if we only had the one room. The second room though has to be used for the wii too, sometimes therer might be a conflict too.


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 32 posts ]  Go to page 1, 2, 3, 4  Next

All times are UTC


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Yahoo [Bot] and 2 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
CALL 020 8204 5060
   
Privacy Policy | Refund Policy | Disclaimer | Copyright © 2004 – 2016