I don't want this post to be excessively long.Here is the dilemma :-
A girl in her new school has effectively bullied my daughter and others(term 1 ).E.G telling her that she "won't be her friend if she is nice to Sally (not real name)" - a girl she dislikes.She has told her things such as " no one likes you - leave the school".It has been worse to others e.g spreading rumours that girls have had abortions.(Year 7 !)There have been some clashes that have ended in tears.
The girl's mum is nice but oblivious of the worst of it all and thinks it is just a "personality clash".The school were made aware of it by me at this point and wanted to "help the girls to move on"
After these events my DD pulled away and joined another "group"
All was failry fine and quiet.
The girl and her sidekicks have recently started sitting again with Dd and friends.
This weekend , alerted by another child, she has come across "modified" pictures of my DD posted by this girl followed by jeering comments from her cronies. There were other negative postings about her.There are more incidents of physical bullying and namecalling but this would make the post too long.
Should I just tell DD to pull away from this group of friends. None of them
stand up to this girl and there are a large group who d
o and are friendly to my daughter. This girl does seem to organise to hurt others.Parents are very, very , very involved in the PTA.Dad regularly speaks at parent teacher meetings.
.I have printed off the facebook cruelty - I have proof.
DD is well liked enough to pick up and start again and just ignore this. Sadly though someone else will become the next victim.If I complain this time it will ramp it all up and could make things worse for her.She is happy to "pull away".
For the first time in my parenting life , I genuinely have no
instinct for the right thing for my daughter...please help.