Valentine's Disco - Should you have a boyfriend in Year 6?

[ausvic]

I wouldn't get too worked up over this. The problem is society. Valentine's Day has become ANOTHER day that has become over commercialised (like Halloween). It is everywhere in the shops and the kids think they have to be involved. My DS had a 'girlfriend' all through his year 6. This didn't involve anything other than saying 'I have a girlfriend'. There was no kissing, holding hands etc. Kids these days are growing up way too fast but that is down to the role models they have in the public eye (Jordan etc). I am so glad that I don't have daughters as the way I see some young girls dressing is very worrying. I don't think a little Valentine's disco is going to corrupt these kids. When I was in year 6 (many many years ago!) I had a boyfriend and we even played kiss chasey!

[mm23292]

I agree too ppm, my DD comes home with many tales of playground relationship woes, some of which have begun to affect the freindships she has herself. A boy she has been friends with since nursery school, has been 'going out' with one the girls in her group of friends for a very long term..3 weeks now. DD came home in floods of tears this week, because she helped him with some school work presentation, her pal became insanely jealous, elicited the rest of the group to come and comfort her, and DD was given strong verbatim on keeping her mitts off the boy...utterly insane. What am I supposed to tell a 10yo upset and bewildered by the wrath of a tween mantis? Don't fraternise with the trousered kind in class, and above all, don't ever lend them your pritt stick!

[pheasantchick]

In my DS's class, theres talk of child 'A' is in love with 'child 'B' etc but it appears to be harmless fun. Actually, after the last school disco, more love gossip came from year 4 rather than year 6.

[doodles]

How silly to have a Valentine's Disco for primary school they are far too young to be thinking about "relationships" in that way. What happened to boys and girls being FRIENDS.

DS's school occasionally has discos for Yrs 6,7 and 8 and having chaperoned a few I can say that they have been completely innocent. Boys on one side of the room, girls on the other and a few very brave souls in the middle.
In fact being a chaperone is quite a good night out it can be really funny watching them.........

[rachag]

Yes, Magwich, there are plenty of these stupid mothers out there.
From DD'd year(current y7), a 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' were going to different schools.
The boy's friend was going to same school as the girl friend.
His mother told me that son was 'going to keep an eye' on the girl friend for his friend to make sure she behaved herself!! I was speechless.
Have also heard a mother describe her year 1 daughter as 'man mad' to a new parent.

Perhaps may be viewed as trivial by some but the impressions made on young minds do matter.

[mad?]

Marigold you are a true comic genius.
OP you are absolutely spot on.
Magwich2...I agree!
I think this is all a consequence of our culture fuelling the early and overt ...ualisation of childhood and the normalisation of things which, whilst many may have done at that age, were at least considered 'risque'. As soon as something is normalised children will seek another boundary to push against and we seem as a society to fuel this rather than push back. It makes me mad?

[sherry_d]

At our school they always do a slow dance and its always the boys that have to pick up the girls all the time. It makes me furious perhaps because my little angels hardly gets picked up. Why can they just let the girls pick up boys too?

What happened to boys and girls being FRIENDS.

Exactly and it seems girls mature much faster and they are the ones going all crazy about boys.

[push-pull-mum]

the forum will not let me use the word d-a-t-i-n-g which has led to some rather awkward editing on my part. When did it become a rude word?

Unfortunately there are spammers for d-a-t-i-n-g websites who turn up at the dead of night and post their rubbish. A block on certain words is one of our early defences against it until a Mod crawls out of bed and removes the post.

Ah! That makes sense. I was concerned that, being old and out of touch, I was inadvertently using a very rude word. So glad I thought to 'preview' before I posted. The original censored version looked very odd - like an old episode of Blankety Blank!

Re the disco - good friends whose DCren go to a different local primary assure me I am very lucky to be getting away without a Year 6 Prom complete with corsages, chauffeur driven limo, and highly priced ballgowns. O.K. - I've held it in until now but - I blame American TV.

[mad?]

Re the disco - good friends whose DCren go to a different local primary assure me I am very lucky to be getting away without a Year 6 Prom complete with corsages, chauffeur driven limo, and highly priced ballgowns. O.K. - I've held it in until now but - I blame American TV.

Yes, pass the sick bucket!

[muffinmonster]

I blame American TV.

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Sorry, got carried away.