Here it is ....
Happy at my work - currently doing a very interesting overseas secondment (away 2-3 days per week) - this finishes end March. At that point the plan was for me to return to the UK - but they could not specify to which job (my old job had been filled in the meantime). I have been with this co, for over 5 years.
Whilst I was away last year - was headhunted over a period of months, and eventually, after much soul searching, said yes in January to a great job offer (with a hefty payrise) in a new company. Only said yes after talking to current company - who could not promise exactly what they would offer me after I finished my secondment. Due to start new company end April (finish existing co 2nd week April).
But now - a great job - the one I really wanted all along - has come up in existing company - and they want me to have it. But - it still has to be advertised internally - which is all taking time. So they cannot guarantee I have the job until this process has been completed - probably 1st - 2nd week April.
So here's the issue - the new co are sending me stuff (printer, phone, induction programme etc, flights need to be booked as it is an international role, etc etc etc. but I cannot say a word to them - until I have the job I really want in my current co. offered to me! This may be only 1-2 weeks before I start at the new place! At that point I will have to let them down very badly! And I know my name will be mud!!
Have any of you ever done something like this - or had it done to you? What happened? I would be interested to know! And any advice about doing it - best by phone or by letter? I feel in a letter I could explain myself better - which I may not do well on the phone. I feel terrible about the prospect of doing it - it is absolutely not in my nature to let anyone down - which I know I will be doing badly (they have been looking for the right person for this role for about 8-10 months!!) - but I also know I have to do what is right for me - and that is to stay with the company I am with now!!
The whole thing is tearing me up - I cannot think about much else apart from this and my DDs oversubscription appeal!!
Any thoughts welcome - but please be constructive!!