My mum did put pressure on me to do a 'health day' type route with DD. I couldn't square that with my conscience (although I certainly wouldn't criticise anyone else for making that choice.) I didn't mind finding time to work with her on VR but was shocked to discover how much of the Maths and English on the 11 plus had never been covered in school. Maybe if we had cut back on DD's extra curricular activities (she plays 2 instruments [in 2 orchestras] and takes 3 dance classes a week - as well as being very active in church activities) the end result might have been different. No regrets there, however - music becomes more important to DD every week and she is convinced that, at a less academic school, she will be able to concentrate more on the arts/performing arts subjects that are dear to her. (Ha! Little does she know - I plan to keep the homework pressure up to make sure she doesn't start coasting
Anyway - moving on ... DS is a whole different type of child. He wants to be one of the lads, never breaks a sweat on lessons or homework, and is much less focused on any activity (normal rising 7 year old then!) He's possibily brighter than his sister (because he acheives easily what she always had to work at) and I think that he would benefit from going to the grammar.
I know now it's about much more than 9 months of doing VR papers - I'm going to have to boost the schools' imput in Maths and English, probably starting yesterday! And I may need to start elasticating my conscience about those 'health days' ....