I don't regard myself as pushy - but then I guess I would say that! I suppose I have always just wanted to do my best to give my children a fighting chance of success.However beyond the age of about 13, I believe it is up to them to make the best of the life chances they have.
Beyond that age, one cannot realistically be standing over them making sure they meet homework deadlines or always work really hard etc.It isn't good for them.If they are not self motivated by then, then they have to learn the consequences of that - low achievement.
I worry about the peers of my children whose parents have massive input into their homework and organising them in general.What will happen when they go to Uni or get a job?
You can lead the horse to water etc, and as parents we should do the best we can at that, but, after a certain age- up to them if they drink.
However some would say/have said to me I am not pushy enough.