I feel very guilty.
My dd2 was in bed most of the weekend, but got up yesterday looking grey insisting she went to school - she did. Back home, to bed.
I'm ashamed to say this. I was working this morning, invigilating, I rang to cancel last night, explaining dd2 would probably be off school, they pleaded shortage of invigilators. I told dd2 and she said she felt fine this morning. Still looked grey so I rang her school and asked them to ring where I invigilate so they could contact me, and I'd definitely phone at 1030.
Just rang dd2's school and they said she looks very "delicate" so I'm going to get her after Maths. She's not keen on missing lessons.
Of course, if I hadn't been invigilating, she probably wouldn't have gone to school in the first place. She knew I was supposed to go, and said she was fine. I shouldn't have sent her.
It's only invigilating and I shouldn't have gone. What do working parents do? A teacher told me they're allowed 3 days off a year if their child is ill; so they just lie and say they are ill. Unfortunately I couldn't find anyone to look after her today. I'm such a bad parent, I contemplated keeping my 14 year old dd1 off for two hours (she'd only miss PE and PSHE) to look after dd2. What a mess. I feel a bad parent.
First of all, you are not a bad parent - let's just get that straight right now.
Secondly, this is a horrible dilemma and as a working (outside the home) parent it's one I face quite often. It's a very difficult position to be in. We are actually quite fortunate in that we can both occasionally work from home and we both get a reasonable amount of annual leave and, if all else fails, we can take unpaid leave (which is never our first choice!) Dh and I agree that a child with a temperature stays at home. No questions asked, they just stay home. Likewise for any D&V, although my children aren't prone to D&V bugs thank goodness.
Other than that, it's not an easy decision to make, especially if it's not terribly clear cut as to just how ill the child is. A child who looks unwell but does not have a temperature may well find themselves dosed on calpol and sent to school.
Unfortunately, the decision is often influenced more by what we have going on at work than by how ill the child is.
If I were a stay at home parent, I have no doubt that I would keep my children off school more often simply because I really don't think an unwell child belongs at school. So yes, that generates a lot of guilt for me.
Last year I actually looked up the Essex LEA's position with regard to sending ill children to school and found that their advice was that a child with a temperature or something contagious (like D&V) should stay home but if it's just a cold, they should go to school.
It's quite an apposite question that you've raised actually because my dd1 is at home ill today. She does not have a temperature but she is very grey and I fear she is developing a chest infection. She gets asthma when she gets chest infections so I like to keep a close eye on her chest as she has previously had to be nebulised because of the asthma.
Fortunately, dh is working from home today as he had an appointment to attend so dd1 was able to stay home ill. I don't know what will happen tomorrow, I will probably have to take the day off as I suspect we'll be making a trip to the doctor tomorrow.