DD has been having violin lessons for a number of years and is keen to learn the theory too. Her violin teacher's husband has been teaching her theory for a couple of months free of charge as OH tutors his son (his idea, not ours).
The teacher means well, but his approach is making DD rather resentful and, tbh, I can see why. He sets her lots of homework (I think he's trying to get her to Grade 5 theory in 6 months
) and when she doesn't complete all of it, he tells her she ought to be getting up very early to practise / complete his homework. Apparently, he teaches girls at HBS and NLCS and DD is NOT going to be his first failure. I've asked OH to have a word and he has done so in his diplomatic way, but it's not working. I think OH is keen to prevent me from speaking to him as he knows I have a tendency to explode. He's also told DD that she is learning like a 'monkey', i.e. just copying without any understanding. She has started to defend herself, but my worry is that she will go off music completely. I want OH to tell him that he needs to work at her pace, not the pace he believes she is capable of, and that there is absolutely no need for her to reach that standard in that timescale. I also want him to say that he needs to find another way to motivate her. Ideally, I'd like to find someone else, but it could mean losing his wife as a teacher too (she's not a tyrant).
I think I know what the answer is, but I just need to know what other people's experiences are.
One more thing: if you think you know who this person is, please pm me. You might be able to help me see a positive side to this approach. I can't assume that DD has told me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.