I had this with DD and to an extent it is still going on in year 7..... she just doesnt need to go to sleep until about 9.45 I reckon, sometimes later, although like you Yamin151 I prefer her to be upstairs but we have altered bedtime now for both DC (years 7 and
so that we DP eat about 7.15 when DH comes home and chat to the DC, then DC go upstairs about 8/8.30 on a school night, 9.30 at weekends. They are still up with the lark (6.45). We still read to them (!) so yes the evening is over............ DD patters about upstairs and sometimes pops down to share the latest anxiety
, DS drops off as soon as his head hits the pillow!
It wasn't helped by an officious Head of Year 7 saying that you must be in bed by 8.30, and if you weren't you wouldn't be fit to learn. I just had to tell her I knew her better than HoY, as the anxiety from not doing it was keeping her awake, oh irony!
My birthday, so sorry even out, though it did consist of meeting ds1 next headmaster first!!
Your ds sounds a bit like ds1, my mum used to call it the "ums", come downstairs and think of the reason why once you get down!! Yes, ours are up at that early time too. And yes, our other ds (twin) much less anxious and almost never comes down. We had some really tough years with ds1 overnight, so we are glad that this seems to have resolved, more or less I think, but still any sleep issues plug straight into the emotions of those tough times, so I guess my concern is coloured with that.
Thinking we will try to move dinner from 6 til 7, though how we will get through from snack to tea I don't know, as ds1 takes food like sticks on a fire and always ready for more but if we give it he doesn't eat dinner! Also, dh works long shifts so a workday means we cannot ever eat together all four of us, which is a shame.
Can completely see how hoy saying about having to be in bed asleep would send your dd into spin of anxiety. And that just makes it worse doesn't it? You cannot force it. Bt we do like at least some of the evening until, as I tell them, them being up doesn't necessitate me 'processing' them in some way to the next stage, or breaking up more little boy type squabbles.