The realisation that my baby boy is leaving primary school in just 9 weeks (how did that happen?!??) has just dawned on me and I seem to be in major panic about it all - not helped by the fact that my job involves working with children who are often struggling / miserable at school.
There's only him and one other going to his school from our tiny primary and there are a couple of big primaries locally who will be sending much bigger numbers there. DS isn't sporty at all, not an aleph male, also physically quite small and whilst bright has never thought of himself as anything other then average.
I'm just flapping about whether he'll make friends / survive in a competitive environment. He has a big group of friends at primary - his year group is very close and with them he is v confident but with new people he is very shy.
He will be ok won't he? Any hints and tips? Feel free to tell me to stop flapping
I'm in the same position as you kitty mum. I have twins, both finishing at a tiny primary in 9 weeks, both going to different schools, at two weeks over age 11! Both will be going with no one from their current class, as I say including brother! The less socially confident one is off to KES and I also feel really nervous for him, esp as he will need to get used to the bus. He is confident enough in his ability but is not a natural mixer. Add to that that it will be the first time ever he is separated from his twin...........
His brother got a place at another grammar, but then got offered a scholarship at a small indie which he much preferred. He is very good at making friends, but has no confidence in his ability AT ALL and thinks he is thick (constant unfounded self comparison with twin bro), so I really worry about that.
We all have made decisions based on the schools we liked, and more importantly the schools our dc liked. It felt pretty nerve wracking when they began at primary, but they did fine didn't they? There might have been some wobbles, but routine and peer group won the day. I am sure it will be the same at big school. There might be some wobbles at first, but they will grow up amazingly quickly
, what with the expectations of the schools and a new, equally motivated peer group. I am not sure what kind of children you work with, but are there generally issues at home too that mean their challenges at school are not ameliorated by home support?
And surely secondary schools are kinder places, at least in support, than they were when we went?
Can you tell I am trying to convince myself as well? But I am sure that our belief or otherwise, in them also influences their ability to grow into it, so it's teeth and **** all the way here! "You can do it!!". I avoid the "you will love it" line, it is school after all, and didn't we all prefer weekends!? Don't want to set them up to be disappointed, but we are stressing a lot the more interest, more mature, more ways to stretch elements.
Where is your dc going?