We haven't had a diagnosis yet but I am sure DS2 has mild ADHD. I have always felt there was something not quite right and assummed it was mild aspergers but after reading this:http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/adhd/indepth ... mptoms.htm
it describes him and our situation to a tee.
I don't believe it is severe but the detrimental impact on his self-esteem and peer relationships (or lack of) are significant.
So I would like to know what the best size of school would be, single sex v's co-ed, academic/non-selective. My initial thought was a school like Winchester (600 pupils) as there are many quirky boys there, but on the whole they are quite genteel and I don't know if DS would stick out like a sore thumb. I am also concerned as to whether he should get a proper diagnosis as this may impact him getting into the schools we are looking at. I am sure there are boys who have undiagnosed SLD who get into these schools and cope but he may not get any offers if he has a formal diagnosis. I feel he needs to be in a semi-selective school but with a diagnosis he may only have access to the independent schools known for only taking children with low ability or SLD.
My poor son's self-esteem is rock bottom at the moment and I just want him to be happy and achieve what he is capable of.