As well as some useful answers, the poor woman has just received disparaging answers from the "uh? what are you worried about, don't worry about it til the night before" brigade; so probably now she is worried about the school, worried about the 11+, and worried she is worried.
This website was set up for people preparing for the 11+, by someone whose son was preparing for the 11+. Good job no-one kept on writing in to them saying "how ridiculous, what are you bothered about, if he's bright he'll pass, hope you waited until year 5, hope you are doing nothing in the holidays, and not more than a couple of minutes of something jolly good fun after school".
Well, guilty as charged, m'lud. I take your point that the website was set up originally to help those putting their children through the 11+. However, it has evolved to something much more and one thing it seems rightly tolerant of is the disparate views of its posters. As someone whose career was for many years built around early years education, and who is currently editing a PhD thesis on it, I do feel just ever so slightly qualified to comment on whether it is a good idea to be stressing about a child who has been out of the infants for about one week getting through an academic exam in 4 years' time. I come from the view that most children on the planet would not even have started school at 6. I am not judging the parents of children who are put under pressure at a young age: I just feel genuinely and deeply sorry for young children who have their childhood eaten into by such concerns. I also can't help wondering, in this particular case, why the child is at an independent school which is no doubt costing lots of money but about whom the mother has serious doubts.
When one posts a question on this forum, one is inviting others to comment and offer their views. If all the views were the same, there would be little point in doing it in the first place. I do think that as long as everyone shows respect to their fellow posters (and I apologise if I didn't - I was just a bit incredulous and tried to portray that without being disparaging - maybe unsuccessfully) then it ought to be OK. You are right that I believe in play above all else for young children, and I also believe my own children are a testament to this kind of upbringing, though you have only my own word for that: I will spare you the comments from their most recent school reports which would bear it out. There is more than one way to skin a cat (yuk!) as they say, and listening to a wide range of views, kindly meant, should only help to form and refine one's own.