My apologies in advance for such a long post!
My DD is 10 years old and currently in Y5 at school. She goes to a state primary and has always enjoyed school. According to her teacher, she is one of the top pupils in her class and is even on the gifted and talented register for Maths and English. With all this in mind, my DH and I thought that she had a shot at getting into the local grammar school or an indie.
My DH and I have invested a lot of time and money into the 11 plus process so far. She's had a tutor for some time now who comes twice a week, we've bought all the suggested materials and we take it in turns to sit down with her and go over old things and new.
Being that we've been preparing since September, I feel as though we're getting absolutely nowhere. In Maths, if it's not simple addition/subtraction/multiplication/division she can't do it. Her average score in a maths paper is 45%. The same goes for English; if a question isn't worded in very simple terms, she can't do it. She's good at verbal and non-verbal but obviously that's not enough
At one point, we thought that our teaching/revision technique wasn't very good so tried spider diagrams, flashcards, making things into a game but we're still not really progressing. It's as though the information goes in one ear and out the other.
The first lot of exams are in November and she's nowhere near ready. Yesterday she came home from school telling me how badly she wants to go to Henrietta Barnett (the grammar school) because two of her friends are applying and it'd be 'really cool' if they all got in. How do I tell her that I don't even think we'll be applying there anymore?
I feel absolutely awful saying it, but I'm just being realistic. I'm very unsure as to whether or not she's up for these exams.
Has anybody had any similar experiences?Doubts about their child's ability?
Thanks in advance,