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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 2:28 pm 
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I write on behalf of your little kids whose childhood many parents are going to ruin , by entering the education rat race.

Loss of childhood is neglected by some parents putting stress on their children.Some children are put into pressurized education systems , with competition between parents for the highest achievements. Parents meet outside schools to pick up their children, boast about the achievements of their children , thereby increasing competition among children. This happens at a time when the child is developing his mental characteristics to deal with the world .At a very young age of eight , the child is put under severe pressure , his mind is confused and excess strain is put on an undeveloped neural network of a child.

Every child is unique and have their own pace of learning .We as parents need to focus on the well being and happiness of our child .If the child is put through unhappy stressful years of education ,at a pace at which the child is not comfortable with ,the child will develop resentment to education and the onset of depression will begin. If child is put through excessive stress , the child will damage their mental strength development to enjoy a happy normal life .Mental strength is gained by play and enormous amount of playing time is required for child’s neural network development .Once the depression mode sets in , it can lead to major depression and depression can make children suicidal , often leading to an unhappy future. Once depression sets in , the child may be damaged for life. Many unhappy children lie low, bottling up their misery, and the symptoms don't become apparent until the teenage years or at high school, that is ,until depression sets in or reoccurs and becomes difficult to control.

Compare two children , John and Jake both ten years of age ,John goes to a local state school within one mile of home and Jake goes to a grammar school ten miles away. John goes to an average state school ,his friends live locally , and he plays with them every evening and weekends. He enjoys life and looks forward to going to school every day to play with his friends. There is very little home work and which he can cope with easily. Everyday his mind stores memories of happy times , playing and studying in his comfort zone.

Jake travels to school by school bus , and loses two hours of his life every day in the school bus. his friends live 10 miles the other side of school , his distance is between 1 and 20 miles from his friends. He cannot play in the evenings and weekends with his local friends .His school is geared to attaining grades and achievements , home work is plenty and pressure is intense to achieve the exam results. His school offers sports and other activities , but these activities are just cosmetic and are enjoyed by a rare few students. Jake gets one hour homework every day , he is too tired and stressed out in the evenings to play , and he has no local friends available to play with him. The ones he goes to school with are in the same stressed out, loaded with home work and tired mode .Jake has become unhappy with no play and all work. He loses all interest in playing in the evenings of the dark winter. Every day For years his mind collects memories of unhappiness , stress, anxiety , discomfort , loneliness and torment. After 5 years of unhappiness which is stored in his memory , his responses and instincts have changed to those of a depressed unhappy child. Every time there is a new situation , Jake’s memory of last 5 years makes him react negatively and he withdraws socially .Jake’s depression is getting worse , he is withdrawing from his friends, social life , activities and education/work. Jake now spends most of his life sleeping .He gets tired very quickly because his stamina level is low ,he does not play much sports. He avoids discussing his problem and bottles it up for years. The depression is bottled up , until his mind gets back into a depressive/suicidal mood again.

The above depression is manmade , and imposed on our children by our desire to achieve exam results at any price. Don’t let any child become a victim of exams and achievements .If your child is not happy at school , change school or look into the cause of the problem i.e. causes of depression. , and eliminate the cause I e excess pressures and unhappiness.



That was followed by the most in-depth study of primary education for 40 years, which claimed that
3.5million younger children were affected by a worrying "loss of childhood". Many pupils felt alienated at school because lessons were boring and their teachers spent too much time "teaching to the tests",The inquiry, led by Professor Robin Alexander of Cambridge University, said primary schools were
engulfed by a wave of "anti-social behaviour, materialism and the cult of celebrity".
A separate report blamed this anti-social behaviour on the Government's rigid system of testing and
its constant drive to meet targets.



http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... happy.html


Why are children today so unhappy?

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/educa ... 94033.html

The anxiety epidemic: Why are children so unhappy?

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/educa ... 94033.html

Veteran head laments 'loss of childhood'
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/educa ... 96266.html

*A Review of Primary Education by Professor Robin Alexander
Two reports from this Cambridge-based review of primary education – the biggest inquiry into the sector for 40 years – highlighted similar concerns. One revealed a worrying "loss of childhood" among today's youngsters. This, it said, had led to schools being engulfed by a wave of "antisocial behaviour, materialism and the cult of celebrity". The second warned that constant interference by politicians in the primary school timetable with the stress on tests
Primary children 'suffer stress'
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/7039966.stm
http://www.open2.net/healtheducation/fa ... child.html

SATS Stress making DD Ill - Advice Please??

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/primary/121 ... lOnOnePage


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 2:45 pm 
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Hi Oilfxpro and welcome to the forum!

Interesting, I suspect that what causes stress in young children is being in the WRONG school. I have 2 kids in GS and they have always thrived on having other bright kids around them - they know that they would not like a mixed ability school. However if they found the work hard then they may become more stressed by it.

I have also seen lots of depressed children, I am afraid much of that comes from home not school, though I am sure that also being in the wrong type of school can add to the problems.


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:09 pm 
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hermanmunster wrote:
Hi Oilfxpro and welcome to the forum!

Interesting, I suspect that what causes stress in young children is being in the WRONG school. I have 2 kids in GS and they have always thrived on having other bright kids around them - they know that they would not like a mixed ability school. However if they found the work hard then they may become more stressed by it.

I have also seen lots of depressed children, I am afraid much of that comes from home not school, though I am sure that also being in the wrong type of school can add to the problems.


3.5 million kids are in the wrong school , if your belief is correct.Many sweat shop school kids are too busy to have time to play creatively or relax after school. Kids who complain about the number of activities they're involved in or refuse to go to them may be signaling that they're over scheduled.Kids who get no relaxation are stressed out.

Some stress can be due to the wrong teachers , poor teachers , poor teaching methods and the school.


http://forums.youthrights.org/showthrea ... -in-School


Boy, 5, records teacher berating him in class
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJ8CiHFq ... re=related

Teacher Cuts Off Girl's Braid In Front Of Class
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Aq1WeS6 ... re=related

Houston Teacher Fired After Caught on Tape Beating Student

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/05/12/ho ... g-student/

Student Teacher Brawl Caught on tape

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f07qiSZ4 ... re=related

TEACHERS WHO BULLY STUDENTS: PATTERNS AND POLICY IMPLICATIONS

http://www.stopbullyingnow.com/teachers ... McEvoy.pdf

Being Bullied by a Teacher

http://www.teenissues.co.uk/beingbulliedbyateacher.html


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:14 pm 
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Where does the figure of 3.5 million children come from? there are only 7.4 million children at school - are that many really having problems?


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:19 pm 
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hermanmunster wrote:
Where does the figure of 3.5 million children come from? there are only 7.4 million children at school - are that many really having problems?


I read the figure in the following article.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/educa ... 94033.html

That was followed by the most in-depth study of primary education for 40 years, which claimed that 3.5million younger children were affected by a worrying "loss of childhood"


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:24 pm 
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Oh right.

Have you read the report?

I'd quite like to to see how they have made the calculations, but it costs £35 paperback.... has anyone else read it?


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:33 pm 
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hermanmunster wrote:
Oh right.

Have you read the report?

I'd quite like to to see how they have made the calculations, but it costs £35 paperback.... has anyone else read it?



I have not read the report , but the figures do not surprise me .

Unicef report: Key points at-a-glance
The UK has come bottom of a Unicef league table for child well-being across 21 industrialised countries.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6359849.stm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6359363.stm


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 3:40 pm 
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There are so many reasons why a child could become unhappy, or worse still depressed. And one of them is not being able to read, and another is how family members treat them. I think two hours on a school bus with friends could be better for some children than being at home with the "wrong" relative - and I'm not referring here to abuse, just people who are overly negative in some way or other.

Are there any 10 year olds going to grammar school?


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 4:16 pm 
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mystery wrote:
There are so many reasons why a child could become unhappy, or worse still depressed. And one of them is not being able to read, and another is how family members treat them. I think two hours on a school bus with friends could be better for some children than being at home with the "wrong" relative - and I'm not referring here to abuse, just people who are overly negative in some way or other.

Are there any 10 year olds going to grammar school?


11+ TO 16/18 is the time for grammar school , but the sweat shop pressure starts at eight to nine years of age with tuitions and preparation.The bus trips start at eleven .

Now take a look at Dutch children , they are the Happiest , the British parents need to learn from them.

Why are Dutch children so happy? Happy, Happy Dutch Children
"The Netherlands has always been a very child-centred society," says Paul Vangeert, professor of developmental psychology at the University of Groningen. "In particular, there is a lot of focus on young children."

The British mothers especially are the worst for taking on full time jobs , at the expense of their child.
She paid 100 pounds a week to a nanny who abused her child , and make the child unhappy.


http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/6360517.stm

http://www.businessweek.com/careers/wor ... ldren.html


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 4:21 pm 
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oilfxpro wrote:


The British mothers especially are the worst for taking on full time jobs , at the expense of their child.


perhaps the fathers stay at home?


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