I agree, it does help to keep an open mind. I constantly hear parents making negative remarks about schools they have not visited and where the evidence for their remarks is anecdotal. Yesterday I heard a mother saying she would not send her children to Latymer (a super selective in North London) becasue she had heard the pupils were badly behaved on the buses!!! I know several children who attend the school and they are some of the most charming and well behaved I know. Only by looking at a school yourself and keeping in mind your child's needs can you make a decision.