Nefertete, I hope you don't mind me replying on your thread even though I don't have personal experience yet. I have a friend who has a couple of kids in various schools including one in grammar and has told me that she spends the whole day in the car ferrying one kid, picking up another, taking another to after school activities and so on.The grammar is roughly half an hour away. She doesn't moan to me about it but I think it must be stressful. I know it would be for me. Having said that she said to me she never imagined being in this situation and you just get on with it. I think even if you get on with it it would still be very draining but the driving factor for me would be is that I would be thinking it is worth it.
Apologies if you have already looked at this stuff, but have you looked at the league tables for those local schools in your area? I'm looking into whether to send my son to pre prep or a good state school so I found the league tables very helpful as I could see the scores. I am also planning to visit some of those schools as from my experience you need to see a place rather then solely relying on tables from my experience with nurseries. If I was in your situation I would ask the local comp questions like how they cater for very bright children as their response or lack of response would be telling.
It so happens that the two nearest grammar schools are half an hour drive from where I live. And so I have been thinking whether driving my child to and from gs twice a day would be a sensible and viable option for us. I am sure some of you are in a similar situation and here I would like to ask for your advice, sharing your experience with commuting. Does it work out for you? How do you manage dropping the other children, if you have any smaller ones, to school and picking them up from school if you have to drive to gs for your older child. If you are not doing it already, then how do you plan on doing it? I love the idea of grammar school, but I just worry commuting 2 hours a day would be too draining for me and for my child and would take a lot of quality time away from me and the whole family. Do you think it is worth it? Assuming my child would get a place in a gs, do you think it would be really better for him to be driven to gs or just save the time and go to a comprehensive close to home. I am in Walthamstow and I am not sure how good the comprehensives are in my area, I heard not grat, but then, if a child is bright and very clever, would it affect his performance going to a comprehensive rather than grammar?