Go to navigation
It is currently Mon Dec 05, 2016 4:32 am

All times are UTC




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 6 posts ] 
Author Message
 Post subject: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 8:47 am 
Offline

Joined: Wed Dec 18, 2013 3:58 pm
Posts: 229
My twin boys are due to take 11 plus in July. I am not doing a lot of prep as strongly believe that if they haven't got what it takes then it is better to be top in a comp than bottom in a grammar.
The bit I am struggling with is having twins and although of similar ability one has a much stronger work ethic than the other and would be more suited to a grammar than his brother.
The twin who does as little as possible to get by also sees himself as not as good as his brother (although SATs over the years have been identical).
I know you should try and send your child to a school that suits their ability/personality but if he ended up at a comp (which would probably suit him better), it is likely to knock his confidence more as he and his brother are VERY competitive.
I realise families with children of different ages have a similar dilemma but do feel it is slightly different for identical twins as they get compared by everyone throughout their life.
Wondered if there were any others with twins who are going through or have been through this.
Thanks


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 8:54 am 
Offline

Joined: Fri Aug 30, 2013 7:30 am
Posts: 2248
I have PM'd you


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 11:28 am 
Offline

Joined: Wed Mar 04, 2009 2:01 pm
Posts: 6685
Location: Herts
There was a time nobody prepared for grammar schools so the places went to those who were more suited to the work. But now everyone prepares, so if you do not prepare then the places will go to those who research and prepare for the format of the exam.

Parents pay prep schools to prepare their children and a huge amount of revision very focused on the actual exam takes place. Every year at our local selective average ability students take the places from those on top table in their primary because they have been prepared for the exam.

If your twins are very competitive then use it to your advantage by creatiing a format to help both do well at different points.

There is no reason why both cannot win a place if you do your research and create a little and often routine for them. DG

I would sign up for this or pay a tutor to do it for you. Either option is preferable to seven years of one of your twins feeling hard done by. DG


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 12:23 pm 
Offline

Joined: Fri May 06, 2011 7:51 am
Posts: 124
I've PM'd you too. Very competitive twin girls here, not competitive with other kids, only their sister!!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 12:52 pm 
Offline

Joined: Mon Oct 21, 2013 7:59 pm
Posts: 2814
Maybe being in separate schools will be the making of them both as people will not be able to directly compare them any more and, more importantly, they won't be able to directly compare against each other.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Twins....
PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2014 1:25 pm 
Offline

Joined: Wed Dec 18, 2013 3:58 pm
Posts: 229
Thank you for the replies.

I may have misled people by saying little prep....I feel it is little compared to a lot of people on this site!! We do 20 minutes a night, and they both do this no problem as computer time as an incentive!! I am trying to cover the areas that may come up in the papers as well as strengthening their basic skills.

I feel I am fairly laid back as in my own mind I am not sure grammar is the best option with the main reason being it is a single sex school.

On talking to them they do want to go to the same senior school if they have the choice, and they too do not seem keen on an all boys school. Is this a normal reaction??


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 6 posts ] 

All times are UTC


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Bing [Bot] and 2 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
CALL 020 8204 5060
   
Privacy Policy | Refund Policy | Disclaimer | Copyright © 2004 – 2016