Sunshine 11 wrote:
My DD has said a few times, "what if I don't pass ?" I just say "well you have a great alternative, a little bit of travelling, but great all the same." I don't want to heap pressure on her so I just look at it as have a go, and see what happens.
However, as her friends are coming over for playdates and I am chatting to them, they have started asking me the same question ! hmm
well I don't really know what their parents plans are, or in some cases, it is the local comp, which most aren't keen to go to, so what is best to say ? "I'm sure you'll be okay" or "cross that bridge when you come to it ?"or "you could always appeal !" tricky huh !
I wondered if you had started having this question asked, and what your responses are.
Don't know where you are and therefore whether it is pass or fail or whether like ours is, there is a qualifying score. If the latter, then we never talked about pass or fail, and we said that the exam was merely to decide which school they would be most suited to, so if they didn't qualify then it was because the other school is more suitable for them. We had 2 go through and both qualified, but there was a lot of talk, esp with one of them, about not qualifying, so we had to do this many times. I never wanted them to feel they would ever be considered as a fail, so I always avoided that term and used qualify instead.