Hi, I want to wish you both all the best for tomorrow. Our child was very similar and extremely nervous. In the end we explained that he didn't have to take the test if he preferred not to, but that if he didn't have a go at it - he might always wonder whether he'd have passed or not.
Unfortunately there is no choice of another school where we live. To get into the nearest reasonable comp - you need to put it down as your first choice. Once you choose the selection school route - you're finished! The schools in our area don't do "practice papers" with the children, so it's down to the parents financial ability to purchase 11+ resources - or pay a costly private tutor. There are schools here which I strongly suspect do tuition for their children entering the selection process - but it's very hush hush! The pressure is really strong if you find out too late that everyone else has been tutored and your child hasn't! I wouldn't wish to go through this again. Very good luck for tomorrow - and to everyone reading this post who's enetering the exams.
Thank you Katie. Last night we went to visit the grammar school which we would like our son to attend and he fell in love with it!! What a relief... he seems slightly calmer now. Also, I spoke to his Head yesterday morning and she reassured me that he an ideal candidate to take and pass the 11+. She really put my mind at ease and said how well he was doing etc etc. We are fortunate that the school has done many teats with them, the Head personally oversees them and seems to have a handle on the abilities of each child.
Hopefully the hair pulling will now ease but it is quite shocking and his mental health comes first. We have totally backed off and are giving him lots of time, cuddles and reassurance. Roll on tomorrow evening.
Good luck everyone, you deserve it for all the hard work that has been put in xx