Has anyone experienced the following with respect to their DC:
My DD has a classmate at school with whom she has been very close for a number of years. From the beginning, DD looked up to her classmate (who is more outgoing and confident), including regarding her friend's intelligence/ability.
DD's friend has secured a Year 7 place at a respected school but, unexpectedly, struggled a bit (not making it to the second/interview round at several schools, including those where DD also applied).
After the results came out, DD’s friend suddenly started speaking negatively about a couple of the schools at which DD was offered a place. DD wasn’t too bothered by this but recently, this friend started to distance herself (until then, they were largely inseparable), to the extent that she didn’t even say goodbye to DD today (which was not only the last day of the term but DD's last day at the school).
It is certainly possible that DD seriously offended her friend and, as a result, harmed the friendship. But could it also be due to the 11+ experience (DD’s friend facing more setbacks than DD)?
Two further contextual factors might be relevant: 1) DD’s friend was under immense pressure from her parents and, at least by their standards, did not meet their expectations (even though the school DD's friend will be attending is respected by nearly everyone else) and 2) DD’s friend’s image at school as the smartest/brightest has been somewhat dented as a result of the 11+.
DD is genuinely puzzled (and probably quite hurt, although she says she is okay) that her close friend has distanced herself to such an extent and so suddenly.
Any thoughts or insights (particularly how we parents can help DD through this) would be greatly appreciated.