I am however puzzled by some parents in DS's school who have not stopped tutoring their children. This, apparently is to ensure that their child is in the top group/set when they go to secondary school. I wouldn't even consider doing something like this. But is this a wide spread practice and does it really help the child in any way at all?
Talking about continued tutoring - I know of children who were intensely tutored for 11+, got into their choice of a selective school and are still being tutored - in year 7, 8 and beyond. Apparently they need that to keep up with the demanding pace of their school... Now, this is definitely robbing them of their childhood - and in the name of what? Are they going to be tutored through university, too? (Amber - I hope it's nothing serious and you will be better soon
As for the OP's comments referring to year 5 being the most important year in primary education - yes, I am inclined to agree. I've said myself many times that 11+ prep is never wasted - even if children miss on their selective places, they are in a very good stead for their secondary education. I also very much agree with Yamin151 - a careful, balanced approach is key to keeping children happy and motivated. Happy children learn by far better than those who resent what they have to do. Yes, it's good to encourage them, stretch and challenge, but it's also important to go with the flow and let them have their down-time, even if that means that totally unplanned play date instead of maths or English revision.