In some authorities parents have to decide whether to let their children take the test so not all children take it. The child has to give up their Saturday to take the test. They will have seen the schools prior to taking it because in this day and age parental choice
is encouraged by the government. They may well have decided that one or other of those Grammar schools is the one for them. If they do not get the required mark in the tests they will not get in. We can play with words as much as we like but they will feel that they have failed the test because that is what has happened. They have failed to get into the school they wanted to get into. I try to live by the motto
'it is better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all'
I try to instill that motto into my boys, as those who can really take it on board will do well in life no matter what. They will ultimately never fail whereas many who fear failure will because it is that fear that holds us back.
However I do feel that the system as it stands creates this feeling of failure. If every child was fairly
tested at the end of their primary years and then allocated a school that suited their
needs then all this could be avoided. No parental choice, because lets face it how many parents get it anyway and all schools being held of equal importance be they academic, practical, arts orientated etc. I think of it as Utopia and have dreamt of it for many years.